The Zohar [a kabbalistic text] says you're supposed to kiss, exchange Oral sex is fine. Anal? Yeah, why not? She wants S and M? Sure.
Some classical Jewish statements about sex might surprise you. this refers to anal and oral sex], provided that he does not expend semen to no purpose.
This would include anal intercourse, oral sex, or the wife's use of her .. it is clear that he chose to not allow kabbalah to dictate the halakha in.